NPE Friends Fellowship is raising awareness by providing community and education for those affected by an NPE discovery.  Our goal is to provide resources to NPEs and their families to encourage healing and peace.

In June, 2017, after searching for emotional support specifically for the needs of the NPE, and failing to find anything online, a Facebook group was created by NPE Friends Fellowship’s founder, Catherine St Clair. Within a week, she had over 20 members, and before their 1 year anniversary, the group had grown to over 1,000.

That private group starting with 2 people now numbers over 7,000. (As of December, 2019.)

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Catherine St. Clair

Founder, Chairman of the Board

Catherine St Clair is the founder of NPE Friends Fellowship. With a background in special needs personal care and extensive experience in government affairs, working closely with elected government officials reaching as high as the U.S. Congress, Catherine has always had a gift for getting to the heart of a matter. In 2015 she was named The Face of Family Care Givers for the State of Texas by AARP and was asked to represent millions of family caregivers on the National level to influence policies made in the best interest of families. After her own personal NPE revelation in 2017, Catherine was driven to create an emotional support group on Facebook. The rapid growth of this online community inspired the birth of the non-profit organization, NPE Friends Fellowship. Since 2018, Catherine has appeared on national and international networks including, ABC, NBC, Fox, and BBC as well as numerous publications worldwide, sharing her NPE story and raising awareness for the NPE community. Catherine shares her home in Texas with her severely disabled sister and their brother, a retired Vietnam-era disabled veteran. She stays active in social activities, her local church and enjoys time spent with her daughter and two grandchildren. If you are interested in having Catherine speak at your next event or for your organization, please contact rebekah@npefellowship.org

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Rebekah Drumsta

Interim Chief Operating Officer

After an NPE discovery impacted her own family, Rebekah saw the eminent need for a voice to be given to individuals being affected by their unexpected DNA testing results. She has been part of the leadership team of NPE Friends Fellowship since the beginning, in 2018. For over two decades, Rebekah has held a global presence through devoting her efforts to various nonprofits and organizations. Her background is diverse, including educational and mental health content development, international relations, and public speaking. Rebekah is also a consultant, writer, and advocate with the mission of supporting survivors of spiritual abuse and religious trauma by providing resources to educate and equip not only survivors, but the public as well. She is a board member with two non-profit organizations The Vashti Initiative and the Attachment and Trauma Network. Rebekah holds undergraduate and advanced degrees in: Urban Ministry and Family Crisis, Counseling, and Religious Education and is also a Certified Professional Life Coach. She has made appearances on and consulted with sources including BBC, NBC and ABC, and a variety of other platforms such as podcasts and film projects. Rebekah’s book, When Family Hurts: 30 Days to Finding Healing and Clarity, was released in December of 2021. She is a co-author of the research paper, Percentage of U.S. Adults Suffering from Religious Trauma: A Sociological Study, as well as an author in the 2023 collaborative book, Hope in the 2020s: Encouragement for our time. rebekah@npefellowship.org.

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Dr. Paulette Bethel

Mental Health Advisory Team

Dr. Paulette M. Bethel, PhD, MPA, CMC - is an internationally known expert on human behavior and leadership development. Her knowledge spans 35 years of cross-disciplinary work and research. She has worked with public and professional audiences globally. She is a trained marriage and family therapist, certified master coach, workshop leader, trainer and a former non-profit leader. Paulette is also a career US Air Force Military Officer with a background in logistics and program management and has lived and worked throughout the United States and in 15 countries around the globe. She has appeared in multiple national and international newspapers and magazines and is a multiple recipient of prestigious awards and honors. Paulette loves helping others to overcome their challenges and to discover their gifts and activate their dreams through her explorative and narrative coaching approach, transformational learning, strategic storytelling and mindful play. Paulette has chosen Texas as her home, along with her loving husband, Ralph. They have 4 children and 7 wonderful grandchildren. Paulette originally hails from New Orleans and a large extended family that has been radically altered and evolving since having her DNA tested in 2018. She loves reading and is currently involved in a few writing projects

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HERE’S HOW THE INFRASTRUCTURE WORKS:

• DNA NPE Friends is our free, private Facebook community.  You do not have to become a member of NPE Friends Fellowship in order to access this online community.  

To find our online group, please click the following link.  This link will take you to our screening station, DNA NPE Gateway.  There, you will find prompts and the information needed to see if you qualify to join the community.   An Admin in The Gateway will be able to further assist you.

Our extensive community provides support to ANYONE impacted by an NPE. We have exclusive support groups for the Mothers and the Fathers. We also have a place for any other family or friends of an NPE. We have exclusive support groups for anyone who is Adopted and for anyone who is Donor-Conceived.

 https://www.facebook.com/groups/NPEGateway/

• As a non-profit, NPE Friends Fellowship also has public social media accounts to help raise awareness, educate and support our NPE community.  

How Facebook Group Settings Work:

Facebook categorizes groups into two categories.  

• PUBLIC – for all to access and to locate in a search.
• PRIVATE – not listed on the member’s personal page as a group they are members of and not accessible in any group search.  Access is by invitation only from an Administrator of the group. Only Admin’s names are visible to the public.

Our NPE Friends Fellowship social media pages are PUBLIC. 

Our Facebook DNA NPE Gateway group is PRIVATE. 

Our DNA NPE Community groups are PRIVATE.  

WHY IS IT NECESSARY THAT DNA NPE Friends is A PRIVATE GROUP?

DNA NPE Friends is set as a private group because this subject is a major hot button among families who experience an NPE.  Many people are concerned about exposure of their privacy.  We offer as a safe place as possible where our members can be candid about their experiences and feelings. 

Our members are going through their own personal and family issues because of an NPE status.  We have a bond that insures the respect of privacy.  We encourage each other to be patient, compassionate and forgiving as much as is possible, in order to allow us to find our peace. 

Our number one rule: Anything shared within our community stays within our community.

An NPE Friend is a person who (usually in adulthood through an at-home DNA test) makes the discovery that at least one assumed parent is not their biological parent. 

NPE is a term used in the genealogical community to identify an anomaly on a family tree where the assumed parent was proven, through a DNA test, to NOT be the biological parent.  The original meaning was “Non-Paternal Event,” however, with the reality being that sometimes the maternal side is also affected; it has morphed to mean “Non-Parental Event”.

Because “Non-Paternal Event” and “Non-Parental Event” were so impersonal, we humanized the term by calling it Not Parent Expected.

Here are just some of the more common examples of an NPE discovery.

Discovered different biological father due to:

• Late discovery step-parent adoption.
• Extra-marital affair.
• One-night-stand.
• Sperm bank donor.
• Assault.

Discovered different biological mother due to:

• Late discovery step-parent/family member adoption.
• Late discovery adoption.
• Donor-egg conceived.
• Surrogate-carried.

Discovered different biological parents due to:

• Late Discovery Adoption – legal or illegal.
• Other family members raised – i.e. Grandparent raised daughter’s child.
• Sperm or egg donor-conception.
• Surrogate carried
• Unauthorized Removal of Child – Switched-at-birth, biological-mother told it was a stillbirth, etc.