NPE Friends Fellowship is raising awareness by providing community and education for those affected by an NPE discovery. Our goal is to provide resources to NPEs and their families to encourage healing and peace.
In June, 2017, after searching for emotional support specifically for the needs of the NPE, and failing to find anything online, a Facebook group was created by NPE Friends Fellowship’s founder, Catherine St Clair. Within a week, she had over 20 members, and before their 1 year anniversary, the group had grown to over 1,000.
That private group starting with 2 people now numbers over 7,000. (As of December, 2019.)
The percentage of the general population who has experienced an NPE themselves is alarmingly high, currently being estimated at 5-10% of individuals who have taken an at-home DNA test. The Fellowship has seen the “ripple effect” with a minimum of 50-100 people affected by each NPE discovery.
Whether through media interviews, our website, social media or public speaking – we are helping bring awareness to the public by educating about the complexities and unique dynamic of DNA testing’s unexpected results and how it impacts the NPE and those around them.
The Fellowship provides support for those who discover their own personal NPE. Also, we foster communities for those impacted by an NPE discovery – the newly identified biological family, wives and husbands, children and extended family.
NPE Friends Fellowship helps foster hopeful, healing environments through our online Facebook group, local Meet and Greets and other focused events such as cruises and conferences.
Moving past “merely a support group,” a goal of NPE Friends Fellowship is to provide resources to NPEs, and their families, which encourages healing and peace.
Some of our educational platforms have included conferences, symposiums, the NPE Friends Fellowship blog and more!
We are also happy to have partnered with qualified researchers who are involved in mental and emotional health studies involving topics which surround an NPE discovery. This research is just the beginning of our bigger vision of equipping mental health professionals so they can provide informed care to the NPE community.
Our Online Facebook Community
HERE’S HOW THE INFRASTRUCTURE WORKS:
- DNA NPE Friends is our free, private Facebook community. You do not have to become a member of NPE Friends Fellowship in order to access this online community.
To find our online group, please click the following link. This link will take you to our screening station, DNA NPE Gateway. There, you will find prompts and the information needed to see if you qualify to join the community. An Admin in The Gateway will be able to further assist you.
Our extensive community provides support to ANYONE impacted by an NPE. We have exclusive support groups for the Mothers and the Fathers. We also have a place for any other family or friends of an NPE. We have exclusive support groups for anyone who is Adopted and for anyone who is Donor-Conceived.
- As a non-profit, NPE Friends Fellowship also has public social media accounts to help raise awareness, educate and support our NPE community.
How Facebook Group Settings Work:
Facebook categorizes groups into two categories.
- PUBLIC – for all to access and to locate in a search.
- PRIVATE – not listed on the member’s personal page as a group they are members of and not accessible in any group search. Access is by invitation only from an Administrator of the group. Only Admin’s names are visible to the public.
Our NPE Friends Fellowship social media pages are PUBLIC.
Our Facebook DNA NPE Gateway group is PRIVATE.
Our DNA NPE Community groups are PRIVATE.
WHY IS IT NECESSARY THAT DNA NPE Friends is A PRIVATE GROUP?
DNA NPE Friends is set as a private group because this subject is a major hot button among families who experience an NPE. Many people are concerned about exposure of their privacy. We offer as a safe place as possible where our members can be candid about their experiences and feelings.
Our members are going through their own personal and family issues because of an NPE status. We have a bond that insures the respect of privacy. We encourage each other to be patient, compassionate and forgiving as much as is possible, in order to allow us to find our peace.
Our number one rule: Anything shared within our community stays within our community.
What Is An NPE
An NPE Friend is a person who (usually in adulthood through an at-home DNA test) makes the discovery that at least one assumed parent is not their biological parent.
NPE is a term used in the genealogical community to identify an anomaly on a family tree where the assumed parent was proven, through a DNA test, to NOT be the biological parent. The original meaning was “Non-Paternal Event,” however, with the reality being that sometimes the maternal side is also affected; it has morphed to mean “Non-Parental Event”.
Because “Non-Paternal Event” and “Non-Parental Event” were so impersonal, we humanized the term by calling it Not Parent Expected.
Here are just some of the more common examples of an NPE discovery.
Discovered different biological father due to:
- Late discovery step-parent adoption.
- Extra-marital affair.
- Sperm bank donor.
Discovered different biological mother due to:
- Late discovery step-parent/family member adoption.
- Late discovery adoption.
- Donor-egg conceived.
Discovered different biological parents due to:
- Late Discovery Adoption – legal or illegal.
- Other family members raised – i.e. Grandparent raised daughter’s child.
- Sperm or egg donor-conception.
- Surrogate carried
- Unauthorized Removal of Child – Switched-at-birth, biological-mother told it was a stillbirth, etc.