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The Next Generations of Families after Shattered Secrets
Almost three years ago, I discovered at age 56, that my deceased dad was not my biological father. Try to imagine how you would feel if you discovered after living out most of your life, that one - or both – of your parents really was not the biological parent. Try...
Identity and DNA Surprises
BY KARA, MEMBER My name’s Kara and I’m a NPE. When people ask me what NPE stands for, I tell them “Not Parent Expected” and then add, “it’s complicated,” because it is. I was born in Seattle to a single mom. My dad, who’d cleaned...
The Mirror
BY, MICHELLE MATTINGLY I looked into the mirror, wondered what I'd see. Would I see a stranger, looking back at me? I searched there for some feature, Some hidden clue to me. If only I looked deep enough, Surely I would see. I've seen this picture many times, These...
What Is An NPE?
BY STEVEN KING, MEMBER A Non- Paternity Event (“NPE”) was originally the term used to explain the break in the paternal line for a male. In genetics and genealogy, the term signified that a person’s attributed father was not their biological father and that the family...
Rejection
BY CATHERINE ST CLAIR FOUNDER, NPE FRIENDS FELLOWSHIP I've thought a lot about this the past few days. No one enjoys being rejected. But, I think NPEs have a really raw place in our hearts filled with fear and dread of being rejected. It is only natural. We want to be...
Sharing
BY STACEY, MEMBER How do you share a story like this? How and when do I tell my friends that I am going through something that has turned so complex that I am still shuffling through the wreckage after a year and a half? How do I share something that feels so...
The Pull of DNA – Grieving a Father You Never Met
BY KIMBERLY WARNER, MEMBER Hello everyone... I am so happy to have found you! I want to make an introduction to my story through a podcast I did last year for The Dougy Center, a community for bereaved adults and children. I have had the fortune to be a volunteer...
It’s Not All Roses And Rainbows, But It Isn’t All Bad Either
BY JAMIE SHARP, MEMBER You find out information that rocks your world to the very core. You spend several days or weeks or months absorbing this news and realigning every thing you thought you knew about yourself, your parents, your siblings. Then you embark on a...
No Exit Room
So here is my first blog post. I'm not a writer. I don't write. Well, except grocery and to do lists. But I'll just say what comes to mind... Has anyone ever watched Tin Cup, starring Kevin Costner and Rene Russo? Costner plays a washed up golf pro located in the...